Are you the family pioneer?The one that has chosen to heal your family line.

Every family line holds certain significant wounds (that can get repeated through history)—these can be entwined in the DNA through historic family trauma (which scientists call ‘transgenerational epigenetics’—a change in the structure of the DNA caused by a significant traumatic event such as the holocaust which can be measured in the DNA of future generations) and these wounds can also be energetically passed down the line if unresolved. 

This isn’t something to worry about as every single person on the planet carries these wounds to a greater or lesser degree. Some wounds can be particularly active though in a family line—this is where you see multiple family members acting it out in various ways. The expression may at first glance seem unrelated but the same energy can be the underlying cause—making one member become an addict and another have anger issues and another attract dysfunctional relationships. All are interlinked and until the family begin to heal & deal with their collective karma, the wound will continue and sometimes grow until it reaches a point where it either becomes too painful to be ignored anymore or a family pioneer emerges.

 This individual chooses at a soul level to significantly heal the family karma & trauma most often by expressing such strong signs of the family wound that the person must go on a deep personal healing journey that either directly or indirectly sends a wave of awareness & healing through the family. Future generations can then take advantage of this deep work & the family line grows lighter in energy, the issues much less dense.

If you’re drawn to reading this, you’re most likely the family pioneer.

As the family ambassador you choose a deeper healing journey than many of your family members, who did not choose it on a soul level this time or were unable to (due to the experiences they had & the cultural conditions of the time). Some of you reading this, may not originally have chosen this role but as your life has passed you have reached a point where you are now ready to expand your healing experience and pursue a more spiritual journey—which will ripple backwards & forwards & sideways along your lineage. This is wonderful work so well done!

Family members do not always need to be directly involved with your healing journey although many will be. 

You have indeed chosen your family of origin for the evolution of your soul. If you have come from a family where there is a large amount of trauma & pain expressed, where your childhood was not ideal or close to it, where you were not protected from the strong expression of the family ‘ghosts’ (the unresolved issues of the linage expressed in your family) then you could wonder-why did I choose it? It’s been very tough!

But you are the strong ones-the bold and adventurous ones, willing to take on a particularly entrenched & tricky patterns. So congratulate yourself for the choice! You have not always thought cheerily about this subject so congratulations may seem flippant…but look at what you have come through & already healed. 

That may have felt private & secret if you have not shared it with siblings or parents or other family members but you are making energetic ripples that change the current and will make a huge difference. There is still a choice to be made by a family member who is currently alive as to whether they pick up the healing offered & roll with this new energy (& they may not choose to or feel able to at this point) but do know you are giving them an opportunity regardless & a lightening of the energy & issues in the family line will occur. You release future & past family members from this heavy energy & so you do a great service. 

It’s also profound and wonderful to connect with the gifts of your lineage too because you are made of these— the trials, tribulations, expressions of creativity & love & the talents of your forbears make you who you are today. You have energetically chosen to also benefit from & be supported by these so acknowledge & honour what you have been blessed with.

So, go well family pioneers!

You have decided that the buck stops here. Know that you have chosen a big beautiful task and when another family member or friend doesn’t seem to understand your healing journey, you can know in your heart, that you’re on the right track. Feel the cord of connection stretching between you and your ancestors, going far back in time. See the healing work you do as lighting up that cord & releasing the bonds of the family past and also see it stretch far into the future family yet to come, paving a brighter way for each new generation.

“Walking, I can almost hear the redwoods beating. And the oceans are above me here, rolling clouds, heavy and dark. It is winter and there is smoke from the fires. It is a world of elemental attention, of all things working together, listening to what speaks in the blood. Whichever road I follow, I walk in the land of many gods… Suddenly all my ancestors are behind me. Be still, they say. Watch and listen. You are the result of the love of thousands.”

― Linda Hogan, Dwellings: A Spiritual History of the Living World

If my tone sounds a little different in this blog, it’s because I channeled it by tuning in to my lovely guides, so thank you guides!