What the hell am I doing with my life??!!!
I’m a natural over thinker.
If you hooked me up & measured the wattage generated by my brain (especially some nights at midnight when I feel like I’m downloading another totally genius idea that no one in the world has ever thought of before)… when I should be going to sleep…..you might be able to use it to power a small city or at least a suburb of one.
Always questioning. Always wondering.
It’s got it’s up sides. I’m good at my job as a coach (dare I be so un-British & toot my own horn on that one) because I love using some of this power outage in getting to the bottom of things with people.
The down side…
Sometimes there’s too much wondering if I’ve made the right decisions, am I going in the right direction & what on Earth should I put in this sandwich?!
Now unless everything is going along in a tickety boo fashion & you’re skipping down the highway of your life & if you’re anything like me (which by the way, I’ve discovered is most of the women I know/people I coach/my friends) then New Year makes you ask this question:
‘What the hell am I doing with my life?’…
…in some way (it might not be quite as dramatic—you’d probably leave out the ‘hell’ part…. I’ve got a flare for the dramatic…as you might have noticed)—but anyway, getting back to my point—it kind of triples in intensity at this time of year….
Plus, I don’t know whether you believe in Astrology or not—but I have a lovely client who tends to tell me what’s going on on that front—we’ve also had a pesky Mercury Retrograde (from the 5th-25th Jan) which apparently makes things tricky in the areas of communications, technology and plans….generally it makes things un straight forward let’s say (I was going to swear there & say, it f**ks things up—but that was me, being dramatic again).
Of course, there are good sides:
“This period is best used for re-organizing and reflecting. We look at the world a little differently–through different filters–and can come up with some very important inner revelations.” CafeAstrology.com
On the positive side, I take from that that it’s time to go inwards & figure it out so we can emerge and make amazing things happen after the 25th (which has calmed my own New Year over thinking brain down with some big realisations & exciting plans)…
Astrology aside, there are 3 things that I know to be true about us over-thinkers…
1) We are actually amazing at making plans.
2) We DO know what we’re doing really.
3) We have awesome intuition to help us with the above!
What we need….
is very often another person (& choose carefully here—someone who is kind, wise, genuinely wants the best for you & is an all round good egg) to bounce things off AND remind us to stop going round in circles & listen to our intuition too.
Of course, we can expertly do that for ourselves—for me, that requires having a paper & pen (plus a good view, preferably a cat or beard to stroke—I don’t have either of these yet but borrow someone else’s where I can.. & A LOT of tea) at the ready…Plus some TIME..
which most of us forget to set aside because we are SUPER super busy folk doing ever so important things with no time to figure out the answers to those questions & listen to ourselves.
And sometimes it takes putting that in the diary because otherwise you know it will NEVER HAPPEN & those questions…like, ‘What the hell am I doing with my life and who am I anyway?” will catch you at midnight or on the bus or in the shower or more inconveniently when your boss is talking to you & you accidentally zone out & have no idea what you’re supposed to be doing that day…
Be reassured by this article: Overthinking Worriers Are Probably Creative Geniuses, Research Finds “Cheerful, happy-go-lucky people by definition do not brood about problems and so must be at a disadvantage when problem-solving compared to a more neurotic person…’ LifeHack.org
Maybe those midnight ideas are genius after all!